Depression and anxiety
are very prevalent problems in todays society, affecting almost all of us at
some time in our lives. For many, and estimates are as high as 40% of adults,
depression can be a chronic problem that severely impacts the quality of life,
happiness and personal relationships. Mindfulness Therapy is one of the most effective tools for changing the underlying patterns of negative thinking at the core of
depression and is available ONLINE via SKYPE sessions.
is, in some ways, like a cat-and-mouse game in which you develop the finely
tuned attention of a cat, forever watchful and patient, as it sits in front of
a mouse hole, waiting for its prey to emerge. In our case the prey are not
mice, but the countless negative thoughts and emotional reactions that emerge
from the shadows of our conditioned mind. In Mindfulness Therapy and
Mindfulness Meditation, we train our senses, continually refining them so that
we become expert hunters, able to see the impulse to react before it takes
hold. This is much better than staying stuck as the victim, which of course is
one of the major contributing factors in depression. Rather than feeling
helpless and waiting for suffering to grab us by the throat, we choose to face
it by teaching ourselves how to become an expert hunter, and this means
learning to become experts at recognizing the impulse to react before it is
converted into unskillful action. In mindfulness psychology, we call this
cultivating mindfulness of the arising of mental phenomena.
people often feel unable to cope with their emotional reactions to life events
and tend to feel continually overwhelmed by them. Feeling overwhelmed leads to
inertia and fatigue, which makes us less able to cope. Depression is a response
in which the mind literally closes down and contracts, and withdraws from the
world. But it is important to realize that this is not immutable, not truth,
but simply the result of some pretty powerful conditioning that has caused us
to become enslaved by our emotional reactions, negative thinking and beliefs.
Beliefs, thoughts and emotional reactions can all be changed, but first we must
learn to become a hunter and take the initiative to train ourselves to catch
our negative thoughts in the act.
What next, after we
have caught our reactions?
This is the crux of
the matter. Developing the art of mindfulness of the arising of reactions is
immensely important, but what you do next will define whether the reactivity
will be able to change, transform and resolve itself, and whether you will be
able to break free of its grip.
those who follow the path of mindfulness, we choose to actively greet the
reaction, the impulse that is stirring, the emotion or thought that is trying
to take control. We literally greet it with, Welcome. I acknowledge you. You
are most welcome here, please take a seat. We learn not to run away from the
impulse, and not to react to it with aversion to the emotions stirring inside.
We watch very carefully for the secondary impulses to become involved in the
reaction or emotion, to become caught up in the story and identified with the
contents of thinking. Mindfulness is not thinking about things; it is the
direct awareness of things as they are, without an observer, without an ego
evaluating, judging and commenting. This is what we call the Response of
Mindfulness, the choice to be fully present and aware without becoming
reactive. Reactivity is enslavement and leads to more of the same; it inhibits
change. Responsiveness is freedom from thoughts and emotions and this promotes
change, transformation and healing. Reactivity closes the mind; mindfulness
opens both the mind and the heart, and it is in this therapeutic space that
real change can take place.
after Recognition comes Relationship, the acceptance of the right of our inner
thoughts and emotions to exist, which is the foundation of love and compassion.
Ultimately, nothing can resist this powerful presence, and everything becomes
free to change and heal itself in the light and warmth of mindfulness. Quite
simply, mindfulness heals because it is about caring and learning how to care
for the suffering that lies within. This is not abstract love, but love
directed at the detailed mess that is the turmoil of our mind. We choose, as
the hunter chooses, to bring this healing spaciousness to each fragment of the mind;
each negative thought, belief and emotion. We choose to sit with each and
give it the space in which to unfold, unwind and release its grip. In this
therapeutic space of mindfulness, painful emotions, anger, hurt, guilt or fear
are at last allowed to heal in their own unique way. They need the freedom to
complete their dance, which is called cultivating the mindfulness of the
existence of that which has arisen.
and the depression that results from chronic suffering is caused by not allowing
inner pain to complete its dance and to do whatever it needs to do to attain
resolution, and bring about the release of emotional energy that has become
trapped and frozen in place. Completion requires inner freedom, which is the
conscious awareness and presence that we call mindfulness. Mindfulness is the
stage on which experience can complete its dance and come to a close. This is
called cultivation of the mindfulness of the cessation of phenomena. When we
train in mindfulness, we learn to do this from moment to moment, cultivating
mindfulness of the arising of experience, the dance of experience and the
cessation of experience. When we allow this to proceed without interruption and
resistance, then we can sublimate depression, anxiety, fear and worry, and
release that trapped energy back into the psyche where it becomes available to
produce action and change in our daily life and in our relationships.
This is not
metaphysical speculation, not New Age idealism, but something that can be
directly experienced and felt. I invite you to learn more about mindfulness,
mindfulness meditation and Mindfulness Meditation Therapy, and apply these
teachings to transform and heal your depression or anxiety.
psychotherapists, counselors and life coaches recognize the widespread need for
education in the field of emotional management and self-help, and are offering
this in the form of personalized coaching online, particularly through email
correspondence and Skype sessions. Online coaching offers many advantages to
the client, and convenience has to be one of the greatest reasons why Online
Counseling is becoming more and more popular. Another very important advantage
of Online Counseling is that it empowers the client, allowing him or her to
direct the process in a way that works for them. The very process of writing
down ones thoughts and feelings and preparing for a Skype videocam session is
therapeutic in itself. The Online Therapy process also helps both client and
therapist focus on designing specific solutions to specific problems. Often
this will involve exercises and homework assignments that the client can
experiment with at home.
Therapy is proving to be a very effective approach for online counseling,
because it teaches clients how to work with their emotions using a very
structured and individualized approach.
Besides face-to-face Mindfulness
Psychotherapy sessions, Dr Peter Strong offers the ever-popular Online
Psychotherapy and Counseling service, in which he teaches clients specific strategies for
working with emotional stress through a combination of email correspondence and
Skype sessions. Peter also offers teaching seminars for groups, and companies
with an interest in stress management. If you want to learn Mindfulness
Meditation, you can do this through email
correspondence and Skype. Visit http://www.mindfulnessmeditationtherapy.com
Your email enquiries are welcome.